By: Meghan K.

It’s something everyone tells us to have. It’s both the easiest and hardest thing in the world to find. It’s everywhere, and yet nowhere. It’s elusive and yet obvious.
Whoa, hold on, too many opposites!
Okay, backtracking…
So, confidence. Everyone sees it differently. Some people think that it’s the same as arrogance. Some people see it as a summit that seems to get farther and farther away the more you try to reach it. Some people see it as the perfect accessory, the one that looks good on anyone no matter what they’re wearing and once you’ve got it, poof! Everything is awesome.
Confidence is like eating M&Ms; if you have too much, it’s not good, and if you don’t have enough, well, that’s not good either. It’s always important to keep both confidence and M&Ms in moderation.
But how do you get confidence? And more importantly, once you have it, how do you keep it?
First and foremost, confidence is not usually something you find overnight. There are some exceptions to this, but most of the time, you’re not just going to wake up one morning and say to yourself, “I look fabulous and I’m going to rock at drama auditions or orchestra auditions or that test I have to take.” Usually, it takes a while to build up confidence, especially if you don’t have much confidence to begin with, and it usually takes a bunch of small events to work up to big things.
What kinds of small events? Here are a few things you can try to build your confidence:

·      Have fun with your wardrobe. Want to mismatch your socks? Do it! Want to wear those jeans that you painted butterflies onto but are unsure if people will like them? Go for it! Even if you’re wearing something that you wouldn’t normally wear, go ahead and wear it with pride.
·      Do stuff for you. Don’t do things just because your friends are doing them or just because your friends tell you to do them. Now, if the activity means something to you, then go for it.
·      If you don’t feel it, pretend you do. Stand up tall, smile, and even if you don’t feel confident, make it look like you are. You’ll not only convince people around you that you’re sure of yourself, you’ll convince yourself too!
·      Write a few things you like about yourself on sticky notes and stick ‘em on the bathroom mirror. You can do this with a bunch of friends and all write something about each other. Then, stick the notes on your bathroom mirror, and every morning, you’ll see all the good things about you as a person.
·      Be good to yourself. This can be something like doing your nails or trying a new hairstyle or it can be something like thinking positively about yourself.
·      Try something new. Even if there’s a possibility that it might not go well, there’s always a possibility that it might. And also, trying new things is fun!
·      Don’t forget to smile!

Above all, one of the best ways to be confident and stay that way is to be yourself. I know you’ve probably heard it before, but it definitely works. If you’re comfortable in your own skin, and if you’re not trying to hide who you really are, you’ll be a lot more sure of yourself, and people will know you’re confident from the moment you walk in the room.

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