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Dear GiGi,
So I have a problem. There’s this girl in my class, and she’s really cool and funny and nice, and I really want to be her friend. I’ve been trying to impress her, but so far, that’s done absolutely nothing; in fact, I think it’s just pushed her away even more, and it’s definitely made me feel a lot worse about myself. Do you have any advice?

Awkward Acquaintance

Dear Awkward Acquaintance,
You’re right that trying to impress this girl isn’t going to work. Dressing up, showing off, and/or bragging may make you feel cooler, but in the end, you will want this girl to like you for you, and if you’re not being you, that cool feeling is going to start to feel like a false image or a cardboard cutout, and you don’t want to feel like that.

I know it’s a lot easier said than done, but try being you. Stop trying to impress her and just do the things that you like to do, and maybe when you see her, be a little bit bold and try to start a conversation. Ask interesting questions or share slightly bizarre factoids that grabbed your attention (the internet is full of these) or simply try small talk. That was a tough test!” is an old classic, as is talking about the weather. A genuine compliment is also a good way to start a conversation.

Remember though; don’t force the friendship too much. If this girl doesn’t like you for you, she’s not worth your time and you should try to move on. Once again, this can be easier said than done, but being fake just for one person isn’t fun and in the end, the friendship won’t make you happy.

Good luck!


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