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Dear GiGi,
Dear GiGi,
So I have a problem. There’s this girl in my class, and she’s really
cool and funny and nice, and I really want to be her friend. I’ve been trying
to impress her, but so far, that’s done absolutely nothing; in fact, I think
it’s just pushed her away even more, and it’s definitely made me feel a lot
worse about myself. Do you have any advice?
Signed,
Awkward Acquaintance
Dear Awkward Acquaintance,
You’re right that
trying to impress this girl isn’t going to work. Dressing up, showing off,
and/or bragging may make you feel cooler, but in the end, you will want this
girl to like you for you, and if you’re not being you, that cool feeling is
going to start to feel like a false image or a cardboard cutout, and you don’t
want to feel like that.
I know it’s a lot
easier said than done, but try being you. Stop trying to impress her and just
do the things that you like to do, and maybe when you see her, be a little bit
bold and try to start a conversation. Ask interesting questions or share slightly
bizarre factoids that grabbed your attention (the internet is full of these) or
simply try small talk. That was a tough test!” is an old classic, as is talking
about the weather. A genuine compliment is also a good way to start a
conversation.
Remember though;
don’t force the friendship too much. If this girl doesn’t like you for you,
she’s not worth your time and you should try to move on. Once again, this can
be easier said than done, but being fake just for one person isn’t fun and in
the end, the friendship won’t make you happy.
Good luck!
GiGi
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